Here’s another line that has passed into folklore without a shred of evidence: men can carry their middle-aged weight gain better than women. Seriously? Why have we, uhm…mature ladies, decided to accept that? We have even stopped going to beaches due to the dreaded fear of something much worse than jellyfish or even shark attacks – SWIMSUITS!!!!
If we do go, we shroud ourselves in beachwear or huge old fashioned swimwear with built-in tummy binding and thigh hiding skirts. All the while, men frolic about enjoying the sand and surf with their bellies hanging over their swimwear like a child’s inflated pool buddy!! Is it that they just don’t care? Do they know something that we don’t? Or maybe, just maybe, they accept themselves for who they are and are not bound by society’s image of how they “should” look. Ding!!!!, but thank you for playing. I believe the answer is: all of the above! Men NEVER try to mimic supermodels, our society does not look down upon them for their weight gain, and frankly, they just don’t care what others think!
If you’ve ever been to any beach in Europe, you’ve seen quite a few men’s enlarged bellies hanging over Speedos. Now, that’s just not attractive – I don’t care who you are, royalty or not!! To be fair, I’ll admit I was lucky. I didn’t give up bikinis until my mid-forties. Until just a few years ago, I was perfectly comfortable in a one-piece. After menopause and it’s inevitable weight gain, I am no longer up to a so called “fun weekend” at the beach. Insecurity factors in here, certainly, but more prolific are the ideals we have had hammered into our brains since childhood (can we say thank you Barbie doll and Twiggy?).
It’s time for us to stop thinking of ourselves as “not swimsuit ready” and just roll (no pun intended) with the tide and enjoy being alive and active.
I’m about to say something that will shock all men, especially my own husband – we could learn something from men. Oh my, did I just say that out loud?! I did, but, for the sake of us all, don’t tell them! The pleasure is in being at the beach, enjoying the summer, sand, and sun – not caring about how we look in our outfits. As we baby boomers are aging, are we to be the first post-Twiggy generation of post-menopausal women to declare our independence from “ideal bodies” and just enjoy a day at the beach? Let’s post that up – sorry, felt like I needed to say “post” one more time!
Now, to swimsuit or not to swimsuit – that is the question.Embed from Getty Images
All ages, all body types, all sizes. They’re having fun and making memories!
3 thoughts on “To Swimsuit or Not to Swimsuit??”
Lol, Holly! This is so well written! It’s funny that you say all of this because I know men that go out with t-shirts on as they swim… Meanwhile, I wear swim shorts to cover my stretch marks over my one-piece suit. However, I’m finding myself caring less and less.
This post should be reprinted in every fashion magazine in the world. I so agree, Europe & everywhere men flaunt their bods regardless of size. But for us, the 2 most dreaded words in the English language are “Pool Party”. I have a whole list of excuses as to why I’m not going in the water. What’s the solution? Sadly, until society changes it’s image of women, we’re all subjugated to wearing tarps unless we’re lucky enough to have a backyard pool.
This is so true!! Love your blogs. Thank you for all of them